In 2010 our friend was
raped/sexually assaulted by a U.S. Marine she was dating and
had just come back from deployment to Camp Pendleton. She
didn’t go to the police immediately because this Marine used
a tactic he was taught by the Marines to premeditate and get
out of being reported. And this was by their own
We knew something was
wrong when she came back from the trip because she wasn’t
acting like herself and was having trouble being out with
friends immediately. She also told us the sex was scary.
We didn’t know about the rape/sexual assault until she knew
she had to contact the base after continued threats and
erratic and unstable behavior, she told us she was going to
have to tell them what he did to her. It took months for us
to learn the details, and lots of crying and alcohol. We
knew she had been concerned about his mental health during
deployment from things she had started to witness before he
deployed. He had started to use drugs again, his behavior
was slightly erratic and she wasn’t sure if it was fear or
his mental health. He was saying how they would tell them
women would cheat and break up with them during deployment
all the time, and things like his facebook page saying his
political view was “killing bodies.” (Click
But before we go into
the story know that this Marine had a criminal record for
drugs before he enlisted. (click
here) He told our friend
this month’s after they started dating and had said he was
clean. However this Marine continued to do them along with
several other Marines while they served our country under
the guise of hero’s.
Our friend flew out
to San Diego to see who we will refer to as Cpl. Cookie. He
barely acknowledged her while they were with his fellow
Marines, but once in the car and out of sight of the
barracks the sexual assault started, without her consent and
her begging him to stop, but he wouldn’t. Because it was
uncharacteristic and she didn’t know what to do since he was
drunk, she was forced into a situation she never thought she
would be in. Fearful for herself and others on the road she
was forced to engage in sexual acts at a rest stop, because
he refused to stop and told her he wouldn’t wait.
The Marine’s behavior
the rest of the night was completely mentally unstable,
after his first sexual assault he then told her he had to
play hard to get, then assaulted her again in many ways,
which included: forcing alcohol down her throat several
times against her will, violent behavior and attempts at
sodomy and other details we will not go into.
When she was able to
get away from him right before he sodomized her, he started
screaming “it was kill myself or join the Marines”, “I blew
people up”, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me”, and that
women had always rejected him, were some of his statements.
He kept screaming these things and crying until he passed
out. Our friend was concerned that something had happened
to him; possibly he had been raped or had PTSD, because
everything was so out of character.
He told her the next
day when she confronted him he didn’t remember anything.
Only months later to tell her in a message things he had
said. (refer to mental page)
She found out almost
a year later, when being laughed at by a Sgt. Maj., that
this was a premeditated move and tactic she fell for, and
she hadn’t told him what was said or what Cookie did, he
told her. She had called him after being told by a SAPRO
advocate he was the Inspector General (which an NCO would
never be, but she didn’t know), and was trying to report
violations of the UCMJ that NCIS didn’t care about but went
along with his change in character and included terrorist
threats and a $2000 theft of donation from Marvel Comics,
which they never did anything about, just to name few
The Sgt. Maj. from
Camp Pendleton, said to our friend, who he was laughing at,
“What did this guy do rape you then start crying boo hoo I
killed people and you fell for it and didn’t go to the
police, that’s your fault. Have you ever heard of crocodile
tears, you ate his up. He was going for the Academy Award
and you were his Oscar.” She called us immediately after
because the conversation was too bizarre, and she had been
sent to this guy.
That was the hardest
pill to swallow because until that point she still believed
he had a mental illness or had been raped on deployment, but
the Marines admitted to her what he did was tactical and
planned. So her boyfriend of two years that she took care
of and waited for while he was overseas, had premeditated
her rape and how to get out of it. And the Marines didn’t
care, and gave him the skills to do it, and then ignored it.
Cpl. Cookie continued
this erratic behavior the rest of the trip asking her why
people cared about him, refusing to drive, and not watching
TV, but staring into space the first few days and barely
talking to her. Over the next month and a half his behavior
continued to be unstable and became threatening, including
terroristic threats she has provided to the Marines. She
warned him several times she was going to contact his base
and that she felt he needed to talk to somebody and get
Cpl. Cookie became so
hostile with her through text messages and in a conversation
on the phone then acted like she was crying to his friends,
that she warned him she was contacting Camp Pendleton the
next day. And now we know why he didn’t care, because he
knew they would do nothing.
When she called the
Sgt. Maj., who we will refer to as Marshmallow Head (since
jar head would be a compliment), his first words were you
have to realize you sound like the crazy ex-girlfriend, and
all he had received from her were a few vague emails. He
had already talked to Cpl. Cookie, who at the time was a
Lcpl, and had shown him her some text messages but not his. Cpl. Cookie had sent
her an email telling her this and also admitting to being
suicidal and other things he said during his breakdown. He
also made other admissions that he would lie about later to
his Sgt. Maj. She has provided this message to the
Marines. This would also warrant fraudulent enlistment
since upon enlistment you have to sign off on not being
suicidal or having those thoughts, and also him making false
statements to his command about the other matters.
She proceeded to tell
Marshmallow Head that he hadn’t heard her side of the story.
We would like to say at this point that he was the first
person she had told what happened which was very hard for
her to do. As she proceeded to tell him what Cpl. Cookie
did she was told his radar was down and that he
misunderstood what the Marines told him because they had
said not to be aggressive with women. Her rape/sexual
assault were being called “aggression.” This along with the
threats, suicidal admissions and other violations of the
UCMJ and our friend was told at the end of the conversation,
there was nothing they would or could do for her. She was
never told she could press charges, she was told that there
was absolutely nothing they would do.
Marshmallow Head then
told her that he was working out talking to her and hadn’t
taken any notes, could she email him what she said. And
that was her one and only phone conversation with this
Marine. This is relevant because she finds out over a year
later that he lied in statements to the Marines about what
happened claiming there were subsequent phone conversations
with her, she refused to press charges, and he told her to
go to the police, all untrue. He also stated in his report
that he asked her for more details on the sodomy but she
wouldn’t talk about anything, again completely untrue.
The one and only
phone conversation they had wasn’t mentioned in the report
at all. He told her her rape/sexual assault was nothing and
they would do nothing, and hadn’t even take notes. Not only
weren’t the police mentioned, but according to military law
NCIS should have been contacted, this never happened.
And if this were true
they would have had to have her sign a statement saying she
wouldn’t press charges. Sexual assault/rape is supposed to
be taken so seriously by the Marines that if Marshmallow
Head had heard what happened to her from anyone he was
supposed to contact NCIS. And this Marine’s sexual
“aggression” should have been documented.
The rest of their
communication was kept to emailing and she has provided this
evidence as well to the Command at Camp Pendleton. Two days
after she spoke with him she sent a 10 page letter outlining
what was said and it included the sexual assault/rape once
Sent to our friend from the Sgt.
Maj. in an email after she sent the report he requested, and
she had already told him about the rape over the phone. He
clearly doesn’t say anything about her about pressing
charges. Her phone records show a significant phone
conversation occurred days before this was sent. But again
they never mention it in the report.
I got your email and letter and will review each of them
later this week. Thank you for taking the time to write
Two weeks after her conversation
with Marshmallow Head, a threat was posted on facebook by
Cpl Cookie’s mother stating our friend might be prosecuted.
Concerned and confused she emailed Marshmallow Head, who
told her via email the Marines weren’t doing anything to her
or Cpl Cookie. He told her he didn’t know what Cookie was
saying to people and didn’t care. She was concerned about
her name, which they posted, being slandered and also his
mental state if he were making up things to this extreme
since she wasn’t communicating with him.
An excerpt from an email from
Marshmallow Head when questioning why Cpl Cookie’s family
was saying she may be prosecuted. And again this was after
he told her they would do nothing when she reported the
sexual assault. Notice he CAPITALIZED NOT! He
didn’t offer for her to press charges. The full emails have
been given to NCIS and the Marines.
With matters of you being prosecuted, I have no what he
might be saying or not saying. I can tell you that we are
NOT pursuing and legal actions against him or you.
months later Cookie was promoted to Cpl.
She had also inquired
about the missing $2000 donation and other issues he was
supposed to look into, but she continued to be ignored and
was then told Cpl. Cookie had made false statements to
Marshmallow Head, he didn’t care, even though she had the
evidence to prove it.
She had to go to
Congressman Mark Critz, who serves on the Armed Forces
Committee and subcommittee for oversight and investigation,
whose predecessor was the late Congressman John Murtha a
Marine and someone who held them accountable. Critz has
proven not to take the honor of the Marine Corps seriously
and admitted, in both a letter and to a State Senator, after
a year of dealing with the case, that the Marines mishandled
everything but would do nothing, and neither did he. No one
was ever held accountable for ignoring the rape or the
rapist. So much for honor, civil rights and protecting an
She would have gone
to the police but it was across the country and also
involved the military, she didn’t know what to do and was
asking for help and guidance.
When Critz office
received our friend’s letter and information through a
supporter of Critz, they didn’t even read it. She had to
call them months later and they freaked out screaming “Oh my
God he did what to you”, over and over again as they read it
while on the phone with her. They insisted on taking it to
the Pentagon due to the severity of her evidence and what
she had reported.
It’s important to
note that Critz’s office is full of military and no one knew
to call NCIS or what should be done. It also took them a
month to go to the Pentagon.
The Pentagon reacted
within four hours of getting the letter, telling her
caseworker that they could tell he had mental problems but
they couldn’t force him into help. They were supposed to
contact Camp Pendleton the next day. And they never
However, within 5
days her rapist was in Special Ops/Marsoc training/tryouts.
This is also proof that Marshmallow Head didn’t report the
rape/sexual assault in any way and that Cpl. Cookie was
never disciplined at all or he wouldn’t have made it to
tryouts. No NJP’s or Page 11’s. And his drug usage present
and past wasn’t documented or admissions of being suicidal.
So both Marshmallow Head and Cpl. Cookie had lied and signed
off on paperwork, another federal offense, so much for
Marine honor. And the assault wasn’t documented, there is
actually a question on the form about sexual assault .
contacting the Pentagon, Critz office received a letter
telling them they couldn’t see his medical records, which
was odd since they never asked to see them. The sexual
assault/rape and other violations of the UCMJ aren’t
mentioned. (insert link to letter) But this letter shows
how the Pentagon ignores rape by the Marines.
Our friend had
started to research things via internet and found out this
was a huge problem in the military. Sexual assault/rape was
an epidemic, and they ignored them all the time. Camp
Pendleton seemed to be one of the biggest offenders, and she
was experiencing that first hand with substantial evidence.
She realized NCIS should have been contacted from the first
time she reported it. Critz office said they would support
her, then never did a thing and didn’t even watch her case.
Regarding the next
part know that the NCIS you see on TV is nothing like the
real NCIS, think more Keystone Cops, but it isn’t funny.
After emailing NCIS
and not getting a response for weeks, she called the hotline
as well. Days later she finally got a call telling her
their emails weren’t working right and there were problems.
The agent told our friend she was definitely sexually
assaulted and that they would call her in a few weeks to
check in and that an agent handling her case would call
within two weeks.
Three weeks later and
not a word from NCIS, and the number they called her from no
one was answering and there was no way to leave a message.
She had to call SAPRO at the Pentagon to get help in
contacting NCIS. They were supposed to be emailing the
Dept of the Navy regarding not only the rape/sexual assault,
but also the fact that it was ignored and the mental
instability of this Marine. After almost another week she
was put in touch with her agent who claims to have sent her
case to an office that she had to tell him didn’t exist.
Another congressman’s office that got involved said they
believe the delay was done on purpose.
NCIS didn’t take her
statement until two months after her initial contact. They
waited over a month and a half after that to talk first to
his Marine friends, then almost four months from her initial
contact to interview the rapist, and that was weeks after
his friends were interviewed.
She was never offered
help by the Marines and had to keep asking about getting an
advocate. Her NCIS agent admitted to not having a
background in sexual assault, not knowing what to do
regarding local law enforcement, and didn’t keep in touch
with our friend. They did tell her once that they were
delaying her already delayed case because “more important
things came up” and told her advocate they couldn’t wait
until her case was over.
things happened before NCIS started their investigation at
First the SAPRO
advocate, that wasn’t much help and had given our friend a
lot of false and bad information, looked into a military
protective order. The day after, Marshmallow Head randomly
handed the letter our friend had sent him over eight months
before to an NCIS agent that had come into his office. He
didn’t say he had it for over eight months or that there was
a sexual assault reported. The agent called our friend who
asked him what Marshmallow Head said to him when he gave him
the report, and the answer was nothing just to look into it
and the agent had found it odd how it had happened. She
also asked the agent to warn her agent handling the case that
this had happened since Marshmallow Head had not only
ignored her but had been allowing Cpl. Cookie to read her
correspondence with him. This was too suspicious and she
was concerned about them prepping her rapist. Instead her
agent talked to Marshmallow Head and didn’t find it odd that
the day after an MPO was looked into, he randomly handed her
report to an agent eight months later, not saying a word.
Instead he fed him information.
She was concerned
that her investigation was going to be impeded and had ask
Critz caseworker about going to the police, to which he told
her not to because of the severe mental problems they thought
Cpl. Cookie had. At that point she wasn’t aware it had all
been a tactic and not mental instability. He told her not
to do it. She had just asked her advocate as well and she
had to look into it, then a week later her advocate lied in
an email and told our friend NCIS couldn’t do it. But our
friend had already checked with her agent who wasn’t sure
but said he was told if she went to the police NCIS had to
stop their investigation. Which was another lie, they could
You would think our
friend was the first sexual assault victim Pendleton ever
had, unfortunately she is one of God knows how many
thousands of women just in that year alone. How did no one
know what to do? And the best part was when she originally
reported it it was sexual assault month on sexual assault
day! The Marines claim they train their commands. If they
couldn’t handle this how do we let them go to war?
having to start all over again, worried about this Marine
doing hard time with harder criminals because she was still
under the belief he was mentally ill, and also not knowing
what to do across the country she stayed with NCIS. Critz
caseworker assured her with what she had something would be
We want to stress
that she never said she was going to the police, she just
asked should they be involved, and she has emails to prove
this. She found out eight months later through an outside
advocate, who was trying to find out what was going on with
her case, the judge advocate on base had closed her case,
stating she went to the police. The case was buried and
they had to find it and the only thing it said was that she
chose to go to the police. Since she never talked to the
judge advocate and never signed off on this, which according
to military procedures she would have had to, she has no
idea how this happened.
The judge advocate
works hand and hand with NCIS, who started the investigation
a month after the case had already been closed. Critz
office was involved and didn’t know the case was closed.
Critz office also wouldn’t do a congressional inquiry. They
allowed the Marines to investigate this themselves, not an
official congressional inquiry. And again our friend
learned this months and months later through an outside
advocate not the congressman’s office that was supposed to
be watching it and knew it had been mishandled.
She waited and waited
for reports and answers. Cpl. Cookie pulled out of his lie
detector test that he had two weeks to think about and
lawyer up for, and the Marines wouldn’t allow our friend to
congressman’s office that got involved received only one
report that was full of false official statements that they
could identify. They questioned the extreme length of time
the Marines were taking and the fact that they never took a
statement at all from our friend and never wanted any
evidence regarding how it was ignored and what Cookie had
She was threatened
again by this Marines mother directly in an email, but the
Marines didn’t find this odd or care.
They had already
deployed him a second time before they told our friend they
were doing nothing. Critz told our state senator that “they
had the Marines on the wire for mishandling the case, and
something would be done.”
A week later she
found out from the advocate that her case had actually been
closed before an investigation started. And a week after
that got a letter from Critz, stating the Marines mishandled
things but weren’t going to do anything, the opposite of
what he told a state senator two weeks prior.
Her file had
disappeared to SAPRO at Quantico and she wasn’t officially
informed by the Marines until two months after her rapist
deployed that nothing was being done. This delayed going to
the police for, which we believe was done specifically so
No procedures were
followed at all according to Marine protocols. The evidence
that she provided to the Marines didn’t mean a thing. The
terroristic threats, the unstable behavior, theft, suicidal
admissions, and the most important violation of the UCMJ,
her rape/sexual assault and the fact it was ignored.
Cpl Cookie is about
be let out of the Marines as a hero and on our tax dollar
getting the GI Bill and VA benefits. He is armed with the
knowledge of how to get away with rape.
The Marines did
nothing to help our friend but did everything they could to
not only make sure Cpl Cookie got away with rape, but also
how to get away with it. The U.S. Marines have become
nothing more than criminals and a danger to society.